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While addiction is an equal-opportunity disease, more men are diagnosed with drug and alcohol addiction. Males are also impacted differently by chemical dependency than their female counterparts since they face gender-specific challenges. One of these is the pursuit of masculinity. As part of this pursuit, men begin using drugs and alcohol at a young age. This type of risk-taking behavior is tolerated—and even condoned—by society. Young men who feel the need to prove their manliness by drinking or doing drugs are at higher risk for developing a severe addiction.

In their book, A Counselor’s Guide to Working with Men, Matt Englar-Carlson, Marcheta P. Evans, and Thelma Duffy assert that:

“Although neurobiology and heredity significantly predict the development of addiction, other findings indicate that adherence to masculine norms may also lead men to use substances.”

Masculinity & Addictive Behaviors

Men internalize the idea of masculinity from an early age: learning to suppress their emotions, celebrate success with a drink, compete with friends in drinking games, and engage in reckless behavior to prove themselves. Since men are more at risk for chemical dependency because of societal expectations, it stands to reason that it is harder for them to seek help. Encouraged to “tough it out” and solve their own problems, men may put off rehab for months, years, or even decades because they are fearful of appearing weak.

What Does It Mean to Be a Man in Recovery?

At 10 Acre Ranch, we understand the social and self-imposed expectations that our male clients face when it’s time to admit their addiction and enter rehab. Specializing in drug and alcohol addiction treatment for men 18 and over, our CA facility is uniquely equipped to meet male recovery needs through group therapy, individual therapy, anger management classes, life skills training, stress management, and a proven 12-step curriculum.

Embracing a social treatment model, we encourage men to break the destructive cycle of isolation by connecting and supporting one another, preparing meals together, attending counseling together, and participating in recreational and therapeutic activities. We provide a safe place to recover and confide in sober colleagues, and we teach men how their gender roles can work for rather than against them. Next week, we’ll discuss what authentic masculinity looks like during this recovery journey—and how you can walk the path to a healthier, more confident life.

If you are a man struggling with any type of addiction, we can help. Call 877.228.4679 to learn more about 10 Acre Ranch’s gender-specific treatment program, or to verify insurance benefits and begin the detox process.

Many recovering addicts look forward to returning to their former workplace or embarking on a new vocational challenge. Employment provides a welcome routine, a healthy distraction, and the opportunity to get finances back on track. It is not without its difficulties, though—and you will be better prepared to re-enter working life if you are realistic about the challenges you may face.

1. Relational Challenges
If you return to a job you held before entering rehab, be prepared for co-worker questions. Those closest to you may be aware of your addiction, but others may inquire about your extended absence. Work with your therapy team in advance to decide how much you wish to divulge, and to whom you will divulge it. Planning ahead prevents you from feeling put on the spot. If you choose to share your story, remember that you are not obligated to share every detail. Most importantly, approach your job with determination, integrity, and excellence. You can’t stop the grapevine, but your colleagues will appreciate your demonstrated commitment to your recovery and your career.

2. Relapse Triggers
In some cases, demanding jobs contribute to or perpetuate addiction. Perhaps you began drinking or using to escape work stress, avoid unreasonable demands from your boss, or manage a tenuous work-life balance. If this is the case, consider beginning a new career or finding a job where old triggers can’t continue to haunt you. In your former life, did you buy prescription pain meds from a colleague? Enjoy too many happy hours? Sneak into the break room to drink? If so, it’s time to seek a new employment environment. Or, while you’re starting fresh after rehab, take the opportunity to delve into a new career, start your own business, or go back to school to pursue a new passion.

3. Addiction Substitution
Perhaps you weren’t a workaholic before you entered rehab, but now you spend long hours at the office to prove yourself—or to avoid going home. Called “cross-addiction,” or addiction substitution, this type of behavior can be just as destructive to your health and relationships as your former addiction. Prioritize your work-life balance when you return to your career. Work a reasonable number of hours, and then make time for family, exercise, nutrition, and leisure. Committing to self-care and avoiding workaholism is critical to preventing career burnout and achieving sustained sobriety.

Here at 10 Acre Ranch, we understand the challenges our clients will face when it is time to return to the workforce. As part of active recovery and relapse prevention planning, we provide group and one-on-one guidance to ready you for life after rehab. With preparation and a positive attitude, your job can help you lead a more balanced and financially stable sobriety. Begin your recovery journey today alongside a group of peers committed to a new, productive lifestyle. Dial 877.228.4679 to discuss admission, payment, and insurance.

During your stay in rehab, you probably participated in discharge planning, recovery activities, and support groups. These activities were designed to help you cope successfully with the social interactions you were likely to encounter in recovery. Now, even though you are armed with these skills, you may still feel anxious about inviting new friends into your new, sober life.

Should I only seek out companions who are also living a sober life after addiction?

It’s true that in early recovery you need the support of others who understand the struggle you’ve had with alcohol. These sober friends will encourage you when you need confidence and advise you when you encounter pitfalls. In their company, you’ll find fellowship and activities that do not involve drinking. As you grow more confident in recovery, however, you will probably branch out into new experiences, and of course, meet new friends who share those interests.

Should I tell these new friends about my addiction?

Just as you wouldn’t discuss details about a divorce or illness with a casual acquaintance, there is no reason to bring up your addiction when you meet new people. Take time to form a meaningful relationship first, and then you can confide such intimate information if you want to. Be prepared for the inevitability of being at a BBQ or ball game where alcohol is being served. Arrive with a pack of your favorite nonalcoholic beverage, and if offered a drink, simply say “No, thanks.” There are many people who do not drink, and no elaborate explanation is necessary.

A Social Model for Treatment

If you are concerned about no longer “fitting in” after rehab, the social model residential treatment at 10 Acre Ranch may be the right rehab program for you. Fellowship and cooperation distinguish our alcohol and drug rehab for men 18 and older. Group therapy and shared recreational activities promote a sense of community while preparing our clients to live and thrive in sobriety.

Ready to start your new life? Call 1-877-228-4679 to learn about our affordable rehab services, explore insurance coverage and self- payment, and begin our confidential intake process today!

Substance addiction is a complex problem; there’s rarely just one reason why you decided to travel down this destructive path. Some people are genetically susceptible to addictive behavior, while others are more likely to drown their sorrows in substances when tensions are high.

Addiction can also be a way to gain the attention of others. While it may not be a conscious decision, leading yourself into the downward spiral of drugs or alcohol can be seen as a form of acting out.

Not Just for Kids

Acting out is usually seen as something associated with kids. You may have seen it in your own child when they are tired, hungry, or frustrated. While the acting out of a child is usually an inappropriate outburst or a tantrum, adult-sized acting out may come in the form of drug addiction, sexual promiscuity, or other acts of rebellion. However, the causes of acting out and the need for attention are similar in both children and adults.

Adults who act out through substance abuse may be harboring frustration, stress and lack of confidence. Many have suffered a trauma in their childhood that they never quite processed or “got over.” Low self esteem, panic, and being emotionally stuck after experiencing trauma at a young age are common reasons for falling into addiction. It’s actually the need for attention that drives addicts to use, because they don’t know how else to deal with their problems and get the attention (of a parent, spouse, employer) they crave.

Learning to Cope

The difference in an addict and non-addict’s way of reacting to these challenging issues is having healthy coping skills. Drug and alcohol rehab treatment give you the tools to deal with life’s curveballs in a positive, productive way as you learn to live a sober life. Each plan is individualized to your specific needs. Treatments designed to help you communicate and cope more effectively may include:

• Family therapy
• Recovery assignments
• 12-step integration

California Residential Rehab

10 Acre Ranch is a men’s addiction center specializing in social treatment models. Individual and group counseling, meditation, recreation activities, and life skills workshops help community members learn to connect with their peers and develop coping skills that will serve them during recovery and beyond. To learn more about our recovery programs or speak with an intake specialist about our affordable payment options, call 877.228.4679 today.

There is an old axiom that says, “If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will.” Nowhere is this truer than in rehab. Yes, you will be a better father if you are sober; yes, you’ll be more responsible on the job. But the real change that will occur is in you: you will be making conscious decisions instead of letting alcohol or drugs control your life.

How Can I Respect Myself?
Feelings of guilt, doubt, and self-recrimination may have been part of the reason you entered rehab, but they have no place in recovery. Now you must work to build a sense of personal worth and empowerment. Here are 4 steps to help you learn to respect yourself and enjoy life.

Step 1. Start with simple things.
Develop a daily routine that includes personal grooming, nutrition, and exercise. Take care to bathe, brush hair and teeth, and dress in clothing that is clean, neat and appropriate. Take an active role in shopping and preparing your meals. Exercise on a regular basis. You may have neglected your health while you were in addiction, so set up regular visits with your dentist and medical doctor.

Step 2. Learn to relax and have fun.
Recovery is hard work, but it should also be a time to discover new interests. Your fun and social activities no longer have to revolve around drugs or alcohol. Why not try something new? Community colleges offer a variety of adult learning classes, and gyms host sports leagues and competitions. Join a group hike, community garden, or drama club. The recreational choices are endless, but be sure to plan ahead to fill your free time with challenging and healthy activities so you don’t get bored and fall into old habits.

Step 3. Practice reflection without reproach.
Avoiding relapse triggers is a difficult part of recovery. Practice mindfulness to become aware of emotions that act as triggers, and take up meditation to help you relax and alleviate anxieties. Make gratitude part of your daily routine to help you keep perspective and remind you that recovery is something to be thankful for.

Step 4. Accept support and be prepared to give it.
Dealing with the roots of addictive behavior is often painful and frightening, but you are certainly not alone in the struggle. Sharing your feelings and experiences can ease the pain. Participate in a support group. You should find that giving support is just as helpful as receiving it.

The social model at 10 Acre Ranch offers men in addiction treatment the support and clinical treatment needed for successful recovery. A daily routine of therapy, meditation, recovery activities, and recreation prepare you for a fulfilling life in sobriety. Fill out our online contact form now, and a recovery staff member will be in touch promptly to discuss your journey to sobriety.

While romantic relationships can be a source of strength for men recovering from addiction and substance abuse, they can also pose challenges that can inhibit or even derail the healing process. Addiction experts have noted that both new and previously established romantic relationships are a significant cause of relapses, especially in cases where the relationship goes awry. When a man in recovery is not adequately prepared for the emotional and psychological fallout of relationship problems, he is more likely to revert to addictive behavior. This is largely because he hasn’t yet developed new, healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with the situation.

Romantic Relationships and the Early Phase of Recovery

While every situation is different, the prevailing wisdom among professional addiction counselors is that men should avoid establishing new romantic or sexual relationships during their first year of recovery. Here’s why:

• Substance abuse and sexual activity stimulate the same essential reward centers in the brain, thus delving the recovering individual into risky psychological and emotional territory.
• Men are more likely to enter into unhealthy relationships early in addiction recovery when they should be focusing on their treatment.
• The romantic relationship may come to serve as a “replacement” for addiction to drugs or alcohol, creating fundamental instability that can become dangerous if the relationship fails.
• Making a full recovery from substance abuse and addiction requires focus, concentration and commitment, which can become diluted if the recovering individual becomes deeply involved in a new relationship.

It is essential for men recovering from addiction and substance abuse to take the time to get to know their true selves and restore their damaged sense of self-esteem. Entering into a relationship before these objectives have been accomplished can threaten the forward trajectory of the treatment program.

Existing Romantic Relationships and Addiction Recovery

Addiction often does significant damage to established relationships, and repairing lost trust can take a very long time. During recovery, men need to focus on becoming a better person in the present rather than immersing themselves in the failures of the past. Existing romantic partners need to adapt to the recovering individual’s new situation, and that isn’t always easy; the stresses of a relationship can plunge the recovering person back into the throes of the substance abuse and addiction cycle.

During initial phases of treatment, the recovering individual should have a comprehensive discussion about his existing romantic relationships with his counselor. While evaluations should always be made on a case-by-case basis, it is often necessary for both partners to take a step back before they can take a step forward.

The caring, experienced professionals at the 10-Acre Ranch addiction center for men understand that recovery is a process. While the people you care about can be great pillars of strength, relationships should be carefully managed—especially during the early phases of treatment. Our multimodal approach to treatment helps men develop the tools and skills they need to move past addiction and grow into a healthy psychological and emotional place. To learn more, please confidentially contact a member of our counseling staff by phone or email.