Chances are that if you are a recovering alcoholic, you’ve had “anger issues.” Maybe you directed your anger at yourself; maybe, at your loved ones and friends; maybe at society in general for making you a victim.
You might have thought that your anger was the product of your addiction, but it’s just as likely that an inability to handle anger lies at the root of your substance abuse. In either case, you will need to learn practical strategies for controlling your anger:
Acknowledge anger for what it is: a natural emotion. The causes of the emotion may be entirely rational, or they may be the result of unrealistic expectations and perceptions. You may need the help of a friend, sponsor, or mental health professional if your anger is irrational or indicative of a dual diagnosis.
Learn to anticipate the triggers that bring your anger to the fore. Then, use these strategies to keep small irritations from becoming bigger confrontations.
Practice deep breathing and relaxation imagery exercises.
Pause for a few minutes to reflect and gain control of your feelings.
Take a walk. You will remove yourself from a testy situation, and the exercise will help to dissipate your anger.
Engage in mindfulness and practice gratitude. Understanding your place in the universe and acknowledging gratitude will shift the focus of your thoughts away from loneliness and resentment, and toward community and connection.
Learn to be assertive, not aggressive. You may need to let others know your expectations and boundaries. If you can do this by asserting what you want while still respecting the feelings and needs of others, you will find new self-confidence and empowerment.
Rehab for Men in a Social Setting
10 Acre Ranch is an affordable California residential treatment center. Based on a social model for men, the program includes daily group and individual therapy, meditation, meal prep, recovery assignments, and recreational activities.
Is your alcohol abuse hurting those you love? Are you ready to shake off self-destructive anger and addiction? Contact our recovery staff to learn more about addiction and anger, or to begin the admissions process for our men’s rehab. Call 1-877-228-4679 or fill out an application online now.