Making Friends after Rehab

making friends after rehab

During your stay in rehab, you probably participated in discharge planning, recovery activities, and support groups. These activities were designed to help you cope successfully with the social interactions you were likely to encounter in recovery. Now, even though you are armed with these skills, you may still feel anxious about inviting new friends into your new, sober life.

Should I only seek out companions who are also living a sober life after addiction?

It’s true that in early recovery you need the support of others who understand the struggle you’ve had with alcohol. These sober friends will encourage you when you need confidence and advise you when you encounter pitfalls. In their company, you’ll find fellowship and activities that do not involve drinking. As you grow more confident in recovery, however, you will probably branch out into new experiences, and of course, meet new friends who share those interests.

Should I tell these new friends about my addiction?

Just as you wouldn’t discuss details about a divorce or illness with a casual acquaintance, there is no reason to bring up your addiction when you meet new people. Take time to form a meaningful relationship first, and then you can confide such intimate information if you want to. Be prepared for the inevitability of being at a BBQ or ball game where alcohol is being served. Arrive with a pack of your favorite nonalcoholic beverage, and if offered a drink, simply say “No, thanks.” There are many people who do not drink, and no elaborate explanation is necessary.

A Social Model for Treatment

If you are concerned about no longer “fitting in” after rehab, the social model residential treatment at 10 Acre Ranch may be the right rehab program for you. Fellowship and cooperation distinguish our alcohol and drug rehab for men 18 and older. Group therapy and shared recreational activities promote a sense of community while preparing our clients to live and thrive in sobriety.

Ready to start your new life? Call 1-877-228-4679 to learn about our affordable rehab services, explore insurance coverage and self- payment, and begin our confidential intake process today!

Reconnecting with Family after Rehab: A Guide for People Recovering from Addiction

Reconnecting with family after addiction rehab

Reconnecting with family members and loved ones after rehab can be challenging for those recovering from drug or alcohol addiction. Close interpersonal relationships are often highly charged with contentious histories that may have contributed to the development of substance abuse. In other cases, the recovering individual may feel ashamed of the things he did to loved ones while in the throes of addiction, which can lead to a cycle of guilt and shame.

While it can be very rewarding to repair and rebuild damaged relationships with family members, addiction counselors and experts stress the importance of timing and setting. Otherwise, relapsing into addictive behaviors can become a real threat.

Effective Strategies for Reconnecting with Loved Ones after Rehab

There is no set timeframe for reconnecting with family members and loved ones following a successful stint in rehab. This is an issue that should be discussed with an experienced addiction counselor on a case-by-case basis. However, addiction experts do offer some general tips and pieces of advice that can help make the process less difficult.

First, the recovering individual should remain sober and relapse-free for an extended period of time and get his or her personal and professional life in order before trying to repair damaged interpersonal relationships. This can take anywhere from a few months to a year or more, and it’s essential not to rush through this vital part of the recovery process.

Next, the setting should be carefully considered. By and large, addiction counselors recommend that first contact be made in a neutral group setting where charged emotions are unlikely to surface. In some cases, it can help for a therapist to be present; this is particularly important if strained family dynamics were a causal factor in the recovering person’s addiction cycle.

Open and honest communication between family members is vital. Asking for and granting forgiveness is a vital part of the recovery process, and family therapy can be a big help. Most importantly, don’t expect big changes overnight, since healing takes time.

The caring addiction counselors at 10 Acre Ranch can help individuals and families struggling to heal from substance abuse. If you or someone you care about needs help, please don’t hesitate to contact our facility’s sympathetic and experienced staff members for guidance in your family recovery journey.

Autumn Grilling Ideas : Nutrition in Recovery

nutrition in recovery

Barbecue aficionados may lament the end of summer, but the truth is that fall is a great time to keep the grill burning. Combining classic grill favorites with seasonal vegetables and flavorful spices is an ideal way to make the most of the autumn, all while boosting your health and promoting drug and alcohol addiction recovery. Addiction experts stress the importance of quality nutrition during the recovery process and note that eating well (and enjoying your food) makes for excellent therapy.

Sample Autumn Recipes for the Grill

If you’ve never tried grilling autumn veggies or fruits, rehab is a perfect time to step outside your dietary comfort zone and experience something new. Here are some savory, satisfying recipes perfect for a side dish or main course:

Squash is underrated as an ideal grill food. This simple recipe is a unique complement to meaty main courses.

1 butternut squash (medium size)
3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
Salt and pepper

Peel the squash. Remove the seeds. Cut into 1-inch chunks.
Boil the squash until slightly tender, about 10 minutes.
Drain and rinse under cold water.
Toss squash chunks in olive oil and season to taste with salt and pepper.
Place squash chunks on skewers.
Preheat grill to medium-high. Brush the grill with olive oil.
Grill the skewered squash for about 3 minutes, brushing with leftover oil.
Turn and repeat until both sides are browned.

Rich in antioxidants and vitamins, sweet potatoes are the perfect food for a crisp fall day. Molasses and allspice make this dish burst with flavor, and it’s fast and easy to boot.

4 sweet potatoes (medium size)
2 tablespoons molasses
2 tablespoons fresh-squeezed orange juice
1 tablespoon melted, unsalted butter
Salt and pepper
Vegetable oil

Peel the sweet potatoes and cut into ½-inch chunks.
Place sweet potatoes in a pot and cover with 1 inch of cold water.
Simmer partly covered until sweet potatoes begin to tenderize, about 8 to 10 minutes.
Remove sweet potatoes from heat and drain.
Mix molasses, orange juice, allspice, butter, salt and pepper in a medium bowl.
Preheat grill to medium. Brush grill with vegetable oil.
Place sweet potatoes on grill and cook for about 2 minutes.
Flip potatoes over and cook for 2 minutes more.
Brush the exposed side of the sweet potatoes with marinade mixture and flip for 30 seconds.
Brush the other side of the sweet potatoes with marinade and flip for 30 seconds more.
Remove from heat and serve.

The Benefits of Eating Well during the Rehab Process

Following a healthy diet featuring plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables is an excellent support strategy to use during the rehab process. Cooking whole, healthy foods is a strategy that complements your group or individual therapy process, since it ensures that your body is getting the vitamins and nutrients it needs to recover from the damage caused by alcohol or drug addiction.

Specific additional physical benefits of proper nutrition during the recovery process include:

  • A boost to the immune system
  • Support for repairing damage to internal tissues & organs
  • Increased energy
  • Improved mood

Studies also show that poor dietary habits can lead to relapse, so it’s critical to focus on giving your body the nutrients you need in order to achieve sustained recovery.

At 10 Acre Ranch, our counselors understand the importance of a complete, individually tailored recovery plan that takes nutrition into careful account. If you or someone you care about is trapped in the throes of addiction, we can help. Please contact an admissions counselor today to request insurance verification, discuss medical detox, or inquire about payment assistance.

Addiction and Acting Out

Addiction and acting out

Substance addiction is a complex problem; there’s rarely just one reason why you decided to travel down this destructive path. Some people are genetically susceptible to addictive behavior, while others are more likely to drown their sorrows in substances when tensions are high.

Addiction can also be a way to gain the attention of others. While it may not be a conscious decision, leading yourself into the downward spiral of drugs or alcohol can be seen as a form of acting out.

Not Just for Kids

Acting out is usually seen as something associated with kids. You may have seen it in your own child when they are tired, hungry, or frustrated. While the acting out of a child is usually an inappropriate outburst or a tantrum, adult-sized acting out may come in the form of drug addiction, sexual promiscuity, or other acts of rebellion. However, the causes of acting out and the need for attention are similar in both children and adults.

Adults who act out through substance abuse may be harboring frustration, stress and lack of confidence. Many have suffered a trauma in their childhood that they never quite processed or “got over.” Low self esteem, panic, and being emotionally stuck after experiencing trauma at a young age are common reasons for falling into addiction. It’s actually the need for attention that drives addicts to use, because they don’t know how else to deal with their problems and get the attention (of a parent, spouse, employer) they crave.

Learning to Cope

The difference in an addict and non-addict’s way of reacting to these challenging issues is having healthy coping skills. Drug and alcohol rehab treatment give you the tools to deal with life’s curveballs in a positive, productive way as you learn to live a sober life. Each plan is individualized to your specific needs. Treatments designed to help you communicate and cope more effectively may include:

California Residential Rehab

10 Acre Ranch is a men’s addiction center specializing in social treatment models. Individual and group counseling, meditation, recreation activities, and life skills workshops help community members learn to connect with their peers and develop coping skills that will serve them during recovery and beyond. To learn more about our recovery programs or speak with an intake specialist about our affordable payment options, call 877.228.4679 today.

Practice Self-Care to Rebuild Self-Respect

self respect in addiction recovery

There is an old axiom that says, “If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will.” Nowhere is this truer than in rehab. Yes, you will be a better father if you are sober; yes, you’ll be more responsible on the job. But the real change that will occur is in you: you will be making conscious decisions instead of letting alcohol or drugs control your life.

How Can I Respect Myself?
Feelings of guilt, doubt, and self-recrimination may have been part of the reason you entered rehab, but they have no place in recovery. Now you must work to build a sense of personal worth and empowerment. Here are 4 steps to help you learn to respect yourself and enjoy life.

Step 1. Start with simple things.
Develop a daily routine that includes personal grooming, nutrition, and exercise. Take care to bathe, brush hair and teeth, and dress in clothing that is clean, neat and appropriate. Take an active role in shopping and preparing your meals. Exercise on a regular basis. You may have neglected your health while you were in addiction, so set up regular visits with your dentist and medical doctor.

Step 2. Learn to relax and have fun.
Recovery is hard work, but it should also be a time to discover new interests. Your fun and social activities no longer have to revolve around drugs or alcohol. Why not try something new? Community colleges offer a variety of adult learning classes, and gyms host sports leagues and competitions. Join a group hike, community garden, or drama club. The recreational choices are endless, but be sure to plan ahead to fill your free time with challenging and healthy activities so you don’t get bored and fall into old habits.

Step 3. Practice reflection without reproach.
Avoiding relapse triggers is a difficult part of recovery. Practice mindfulness to become aware of emotions that act as triggers, and take up meditation to help you relax and alleviate anxieties. Make gratitude part of your daily routine to help you keep perspective and remind you that recovery is something to be thankful for.

Step 4. Accept support and be prepared to give it.
Dealing with the roots of addictive behavior is often painful and frightening, but you are certainly not alone in the struggle. Sharing your feelings and experiences can ease the pain. Participate in a support group. You should find that giving support is just as helpful as receiving it.

The social model at 10 Acre Ranch offers men in addiction treatment the support and clinical treatment needed for successful recovery. A daily routine of therapy, meditation, recovery activities, and recreation prepare you for a fulfilling life in sobriety. Fill out our online contact form now, and a recovery staff member will be in touch promptly to discuss your journey to sobriety.

Addiction Recovery and Relationships

Romantic relationships in addiction recovery

While romantic relationships can be a source of strength for men recovering from addiction and substance abuse, they can also pose challenges that can inhibit or even derail the healing process. Addiction experts have noted that both new and previously established romantic relationships are a significant cause of relapses, especially in cases where the relationship goes awry. When a man in recovery is not adequately prepared for the emotional and psychological fallout of relationship problems, he is more likely to revert to addictive behavior. This is largely because he hasn’t yet developed new, healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with the situation.

Romantic Relationships and the Early Phase of Recovery

While every situation is different, the prevailing wisdom among professional addiction counselors is that men should avoid establishing new romantic or sexual relationships during their first year of recovery. Here’s why:

• Substance abuse and sexual activity stimulate the same essential reward centers in the brain, thus delving the recovering individual into risky psychological and emotional territory.
• Men are more likely to enter into unhealthy relationships early in addiction recovery when they should be focusing on their treatment.
• The romantic relationship may come to serve as a “replacement” for addiction to drugs or alcohol, creating fundamental instability that can become dangerous if the relationship fails.
• Making a full recovery from substance abuse and addiction requires focus, concentration and commitment, which can become diluted if the recovering individual becomes deeply involved in a new relationship.

It is essential for men recovering from addiction and substance abuse to take the time to get to know their true selves and restore their damaged sense of self-esteem. Entering into a relationship before these objectives have been accomplished can threaten the forward trajectory of the treatment program.

Existing Romantic Relationships and Addiction Recovery

Addiction often does significant damage to established relationships, and repairing lost trust can take a very long time. During recovery, men need to focus on becoming a better person in the present rather than immersing themselves in the failures of the past. Existing romantic partners need to adapt to the recovering individual’s new situation, and that isn’t always easy; the stresses of a relationship can plunge the recovering person back into the throes of the substance abuse and addiction cycle.

During initial phases of treatment, the recovering individual should have a comprehensive discussion about his existing romantic relationships with his counselor. While evaluations should always be made on a case-by-case basis, it is often necessary for both partners to take a step back before they can take a step forward.

The caring, experienced professionals at the 10-Acre Ranch addiction center for men understand that recovery is a process. While the people you care about can be great pillars of strength, relationships should be carefully managed—especially during the early phases of treatment. Our multimodal approach to treatment helps men develop the tools and skills they need to move past addiction and grow into a healthy psychological and emotional place. To learn more, please confidentially contact a member of our counseling staff by phone or email.

Beat Boredom to Maintain Addiction Recovery

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Picture this common scenario: You accompany your girlfriend to her company party. She introduces you around but soon becomes engaged in conversation with her colleagues. You soon find yourself at the bar, snacking on nuts and having a drink. You are feeling out of place, isolated, and literally “bored to distraction,” and that distraction is drinking.

Most of us experience boredom at some time. It is a negative emotion that is closely linked to depression. Psychologists believe that substance abuse may begin as an innocuous response to boredom. Overeating, alcoholism, and drug use seem like easy remedies for boredom and the fear and uncertainty that may underlie it.

A pattern develops and takes over your life:

You feel bored. You take a drink, smoke a joint, or try something new. You start to feel better; at least, you don’t have to think about the things that make you feel disengaged and uncomfortable. Soon, everything in your bored existence revolves around that better feeling. Who you spend time with, where you hang out, what you do are all dependent on your alcohol or drug habit.

Banish Boredom after Rehab

As self-destructive as alcohol and drug abuse are, their elimination may leave you feeling empty, alone, and bored once again. You will need new strategies like these to deal with those feelings of boredom.

  • Take up new activities. Go to the gym, join a sports league, or take up cycling or yoga. Physical activity not only fills your time, but it also benefits your health.
  • Confide in someone. Share your feelings with a support group, friend, or counselor. You will learn how others deal with the same kind of challenge.
  • Practice mindfulness meditation. Become aware of your feelings and anxiety triggers. Use this objective knowledge to plan ahead with activities for those times when you feel most uncertain or bored.
  • Take up a new hobby or change careers. You may discover that you have talents that remained undeveloped as long as your substance abuse controlled your life.
  • Set a goal and then work toward it. Bored individuals are often detached from life. Working toward a goal gives you purpose and an opportunity for fulfillment.
  • Express gratitude. Gratefulness acknowledges that you value your life and, thus, it acts as an antidote to boredom.

Rehab without Boredom at 10 Acre Ranch

Rehab for men at 10 Acre Ranch is designed to stave off loneliness and keep boredom at bay. Our social model fosters a sense of community, and the structured schedule, support groups, and shared recreational activities will keep you involved in life. Call 1-877-228-4679 to check insurance coverage and begin the admissions process today.

Addiction and Anger Management – 10 Acre Ranch

Anger Management Addiction

Chances are that if you are a recovering alcoholic, you’ve had “anger issues.” Maybe you directed your anger at yourself; maybe, at your loved ones and friends; maybe at society in general for making you a victim.

You might have thought that your anger was the product of your addiction, but it’s just as likely that an inability to handle anger lies at the root of your substance abuse. In either case, you will need to learn practical strategies for controlling your anger:

Acknowledge anger for what it is: a natural emotion. The causes of the emotion may be entirely rational, or they may be the result of unrealistic expectations and perceptions. You may need the help of a friend, sponsor, or mental health professional if your anger is irrational or indicative of a dual diagnosis.

Learn to anticipate the triggers that bring your anger to the fore. Then, use these strategies to keep small irritations from becoming bigger confrontations.

Practice deep breathing and relaxation imagery exercises.

Pause for a few minutes to reflect and gain control of your feelings.

Take a walk. You will remove yourself from a testy situation, and the exercise will help to dissipate your anger.

Engage in mindfulness and practice gratitude. Understanding your place in the universe and acknowledging gratitude will shift the focus of your thoughts away from loneliness and resentment, and toward community and connection.

Learn to be assertive, not aggressive. You may need to let others know your expectations and boundaries. If you can do this by asserting what you want while still respecting the feelings and needs of others, you will find new self-confidence and empowerment.

Rehab for Men in a Social Setting

10 Acre Ranch is an affordable California residential treatment center. Based on a social model for men, the program includes daily group and individual therapy, meditation, meal prep, recovery assignments, and recreational activities.

Is your alcohol abuse hurting those you love? Are you ready to shake off self-destructive anger and addiction? Contact our recovery staff to learn more about addiction and anger, or to begin the admissions process for our men’s rehab. Call 1-877-228-4679 or fill out an application online now.

Sobriety. It Takes a Village.

Sobriety Teamwork, riverside rehab

We like to think that we are self-sufficient. Self-reliant. Self-supporting. While none of these are bad things, remember: Sobriety takes a village, so it’s time to kick those self-words to the curb for a while.

Community and Addiction Recovery

Drug addiction and alcoholism are isolating. It puts people in a precarious place where they begin:

  • Focusing solely on themselves and their needs.
  • Fixating on their chemical dependency to get through each day.
  • Withdrawing to protect others from the destruction of their addiction.
  • Hiding their addiction to continue drug use.
  • Feeling unworthy of healthy relationships.

To achieve and sustain sobriety, it’s important to surrender self-pride and begin to accept help from clinicians, therapists, peers, and family. Group support is critical during drug and alcohol rehab and will continue to be important throughout your sobriety journey… for several reasons.

  • You need a sounding board. When grief, self-doubt, and fear creep into your recovery experience, one healthy way to deal with these emotions is to share them with others. Sometimes, a trusted therapist plays the role of sounding board. Other times, you may need to share your frustrations with like-minded individuals who’ve been where you are.
  • You need accountability. Sobriety is a daily struggle, and will be for the rest of your life. When you complete active rehab, you must have an accountability partner, a roommate, or a well-meaning friend who can speak truth into your life and discourage you from falling back into old patterns.
  • You need a friend. Not the old friends you used to hit the bar with, but new friends who have your best interests in mind. Sober friends are people you can have fun with, share interests with, and rely on when your sobriety journey threatens to go off-road.
  • You need a mentor. This may be a sponsor, sober peer, or a recovery coach—but it should be someone intimately familiar with your addiction history and recovery journey. This role model will help you recognize and avoid addiction triggers and maintain your commitment to a chemical-free lifestyle.

Social Treatment for Drug & Alcohol Addiction

10 Acre Ranch is a residential men’s addiction center that utilizes a social treatment model. Through therapeutic group meetings, sports and recreation, and life skills workshops, residents learn to connect with and support one another during throughout addiction treatment and beyond. We emphasize the importance of living and thriving in community, and our success rates prove that this strategy works. To learn more about our recovery community or speak with an intake specialist about our affordable payment options, call 877.228.4679 today.

Cause and Effect: Binge Drinking and Diabetes

Alcohol and Diabetes

Think the binge drinking you did in college was just good old-fashioned fun? Think again. New research is showing that binge drinking, common among partying college students for decades, may play a big role in the development of Type-2 diabetes.

More than Harmless Fun

For thousands of college students, the weekend is a time to get drunk and blow off steam. And to accomplish this as quickly as possible, many of them practice what has become known as binge drinking: for men, consuming five or more drinks in a two-hour period. Although this type of drinking has always been found on college campuses, it is also becoming common in the general population. In fact, an estimated 69 percent of binge drinking occurs in those over the age of 26. Once thought of as harmless fun with friends, we now know that binge drinking at least once a week over a period of time may cause changes in the brain that have far-reaching health implications.

New Insight from Studies with Rats

Scientists have long recognized a connection between the use of alcohol and the incidence of diabetes. Heavy drinking can lead to pancreatitis, and diabetes is a common side effect of this condition. In addition, alcohol is high in calories and may contribute to obesity which is a direct cause of Type-2 diabetes.

Now, researchers at Mt. Sinai Medical Center have discovered alcohol-induced changes in the brain which provide a direct link between binge drinking and diabetes. When rats were given alcohol in amounts equivalent to binge drinking in humans, inflammation occurred in the hypothalamus, a part of the brain that controls metabolic functions. This, in turn, disrupted the brain signals which trigger insulin receptors to utilize glucose in the blood. In humans, this “insulin resistance” leads to chronically high amounts of glucose in the bloodstream and is a primary indicator of Type-2 diabetes.

Complications of Unchecked Diabetes

Why should you worry about diabetes? Left untreated, this condition can seriously affect your health, longevity, and quality of life. Just a few of the complications include:

  • Blindness
  • Poor circulation often resulting in amputation
  • Kidney disease leading to dialysis
  • Neuropathy or loss of feeling in hands and feet
  • Coronary disease and stroke

The good news is that with early detection, treatment of Type-2 diabetes, and treatment for binge drinking addiction, most of these complications can be successfully avoided!

Are you struggling with binge drinking or alcohol and drug dependency? It’s not too late to make a change for better health. 10 Acre Ranch is a California treatment center for men 18 and older. Call 877-228-4679 to learn about our social model program and lifestyle activities. Get started on your healthier life today!